The Drive-Thru Trap: Why You Can’t Have Marriage "Your Way"

Is your marriage stuck in "Same-Day Delivery" mode? 📦 In a world of instant gratification, we’ve accidentally started expecting our marriages to be fixed with the click of a button. But Nathan and Andrea are diving into the danger of The Amazon Prime Marriage. If you’re demanding an instant resolution to every conflict, you might be missing the deep, slow growth God has for you.
Discover why the best things in marriage aren't delivered in 48 hours.
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The Fix-It Fallacy: Why "Doing Better" Isn’t Saving Your Marriage

Are you stuck in the "Behavior Trap"? 🛠️ Most of us try to fix our marriages by changing what we do—nagging less, helping more, or following a checklist. But if the heart doesn't change, the "improvement" won't last. Nathan and Andrea discuss why behavior modification is a dead end and how true submission to God's design is the only way to lasting transformation.
Stop managing symptoms and start healing the root.
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The Pivot Point: How God Met Us in the Crisis (20th Anniversary Series, Pt 2)

The Pivot Point (Part 2)! ✨ Last week, we shared the depths of our crisis. This week, in the powerful conclusion of our 20th Anniversary Series, Nathan and Andrea reveal how God met them in their darkest hour and engineered the pivot that transformed their marriage. Discover the grace and truth that brought redemption.
Listen to the full redemption story now!
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The Pivot Point: How God Met Us in the Crisis (20th Anniversary Series, Pt 1)

20 Years of Marriage, 8 Years of Nightmare. 💔 As they celebrate two decades of marriage, Nathan and Andrea are getting completely honest about the painful, chaotic first seven years of their marriage. But that's not the end of the story! Join them for Part 1 as they share the brutal truth and how God began His powerful work of redemption. You are not alone!
Listen to Part 1 of our 20th Anniversary Series now!
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Earning the Right to Speak: How to Build Authority in Your Friendships

Part 2: Earning the Right to Speak. 🤝 We've talked about if we should speak up, now Nathan and Andrea tackle the crucial HOW: How do you build genuine relationship and moral authority so that your words about marriage are received with grace, not resentment? It all starts long before a crisis hits.
Listen to the powerful conclusion of our series! 👇
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The Hard Question: Speak Up or Stay Silent When a Marriage is Sinking?

The responsibility of community extends to offering critical support. In the first part of our new series, we tackle a challenging question: Should we intervene when we observe a partnership in distress? We discuss the ethical boundaries, the responsibility of a supportive network, and how to approach delicate situations with grace and wisdom.
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Don't Quit on Day 40: Learning Steadfastness from Scripture

The Power of the 41st Day! 🙏 The Bible is full of stories where God waited 40 days, weeks, or years before answering on the 41st. This week, Nathan and Andrea are diving into these biblical patterns to encourage you in steadfastness—in your faith, and in your marriage! Don't give up right before the breakthrough.
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Back To Basics, Part 3 - Practically Living Out God's Design For Marriage

From Blueprint to Reality! 🛠️ We've discussed God's design, but how do you actually live it out? In this episode of our "Back to Basics" series, Nathan and Andrea share practical, day-to-day steps for implementing God's perfect marriage blueprint into your home. Time to move from theory to transformation!
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Upcoming Marriage Monday - Back To Basics, Part 3 - Implementing God's Design For YOUR Marriage

From Blueprint to Reality! 🛠️ We've discussed God's design, but how do you actually live it out? In the next episode of our "Back to Basics" series, Nathan and Andrea share practical, day-to-day steps for implementing God's perfect marriage blueprint into your home. Time to move from theory to transformation!
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Cultivating Gentleness in the Marriage Relationship

Have you ever wanted to respond to your spouse with more patience, understanding, and kindness? In this week's episode of the Marriage By Design Podcast, Nathan and Andrea address a heartfelt listener request for practical advice on cultivating gentleness in marriage.
Whether you're a husband wanting to soften your approach or a wife looking to foster more tender interactions, this episode is packed with actionable tips and biblical wisdom to help you create a more peaceful and loving home.
In this episode, you'll learn:
What gentleness truly looks like in the context of marriage.
The powerful impact of gentle communication on your relationship.
Practical strategies for identifying triggers and responding with more patience.
How to choose your words and tone with intention and kindness.
The importance of empathy and seeing things from your spouse's perspective.
How to extend grace and forgiveness in your daily interactions.
Join Nathan and Andrea as they explore the transformative power of gentleness and provide encouragement for building a marriage characterized by love, understanding, and mutual respect. It's time to trade harshness for harmony and cultivate a truly tender connection with your spouse.
Watch now for practical steps you can implement today to be a gentler husband (or wife)!
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Top 5 Things We Have Learned About Married People (After 10 Years Of Marriage Ministry!)

After a decade of dedicated marriage ministry, Nathan and Andrea have had the incredible opportunity to walk alongside countless couples, witnessing their joys, struggles, and everything in between. In this insightful episode, they're pulling back the curtain and sharing the TOP 5 most significant things they've learned about married people during their 10 years of service.
Whether you're newly engaged, navigating the early years of marriage, or have been together for decades, these hard-earned lessons offer valuable perspective and practical wisdom for building a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.
In this episode, Nathan and Andrea discuss:
The recurring themes they've observed in successful marriages.
Common challenges that many couples face.
Surprising insights into the dynamics of long-term commitment.
Practical takeaways you can apply to your own relationship today.
Encouragement and hope for every stage of marriage.
Get ready for an honest, relatable, and encouraging conversation filled with the wisdom that comes from years of supporting and guiding married couples. You might just find the insight you need to navigate your own journey with more understanding and grace!
Marriage By Design is a channel dedicated to digging into God's design for marriage and family - as well as talking practically live that out in our marriages and families. Our goal is to leave you encouraged that you CAN do marriage and family by God's design and to give you HOPE that God IS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE AND YOUR FAMILY!!!
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💖 Intimacy Isn't Just for the Bedroom! 💖

Does life feel like a constant rush? 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♂️ It's easy to let connection with your spouse take a backseat. But what if we told you that intimacy isn't just for special occasions? On the latest Marriage By Design Podcast, we're exploring the beauty of "everyday intimacy" – the small, intentional moments that build a strong and lasting bond. We'll cover everything from the power of physical touch to the impact of words of affirmation. Join us as we uncover God's design for intimacy in marriage and learn how to practically apply it to your daily life.
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A Practical Guide To Getting To Deeper Levels Of Conversation

We have spoken to SO MANY couples that really struggle with overcoming "surface level" communication and getting to talking about the deeper things of themselves and their relationship.  Today we talk practically about the things that we have found lead to deeper levels of communication.  Let's get into that!
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Top 5 Things We Have Learned In 40 Years Of Life

In honor of both Nathan and Andrea turning 40 this year, they take a look at their top 5 things that they have learned during their first 40 years. Hopefully you are able to take what they have learned and build on that in your life! Let's get into that!
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Enemies of the State of Marriage, Part 2 - The Church & Christian Organizations

On today's Marriage Monday, Nathan and Andrea continue their series taking a look at some of the influences around us that can be the most destructive forces on our marriages.  The second one in this series is a troubling one.  Can Christian organizations - and even the Church itself be destructive for marriages?  Let's get into that!
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Let’s Talk About The Christian Response To Christmas

On today's Marriage Monday, Nathan and Andrea dig into the timely topic of Christmas.  How should the Christian couple be thinking about Christmas?  What about the secular parts of Christmas, the commercialization of the season, and what do we do about Santa?  It is time for us to have some real talk.  Let's get into that!
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I Am Married. Is It Okay To Have Hobbies, Interests, & Friends That Exclude My Spouse?

On today's Marriage Monday, Nathan and Andrea unpack an issue that comes up regularly with couples that they mentor.  Hobbies. Friends. Interests.  Sure, they existed prior to the marriage, but now that we are married and have "become one" shouldn't we ditch those previous hobbies, friends, and interests and just invest in our life together?  At the end of the day, it all boils down to balance, counting the cost, and thinking of your spouse first!  Let's get into that!
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Upcoming Marriage Monday - What happens to my individualism when I get married? Is it wrong to have separate hobbies/friends? Should I have a say over my spouse’s hobbies and friends?

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Wednesday’s 90 Second Q&A - ”My spouse and I are looking for a church as a couple. What should we be looking for in a church?”

Wednesday Q&A! Nathan and Andrea hit up the mailbag and answer a question.  Check it out and please share this video/audio with couples in your life that are looking for a church themselves!
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Wednesday’s 90 Second Q&A - ”What are a couple of things that we do to prioritize marriage while we are in the middle of raising kids?”

Wednesday Q&A! Nathan and Andrea hit up the mailbag and answer a question.  Check it out and please share this video/audio with someone who is moving into this stage of life!
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